Amy Gahran, “Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life”

Devaluation of feelings

Consensually nonmonogamous people noted that their breakups hurt just as much as anyone’s. However, they may receive less compassion or sympathy for this pain.
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When a relationship ends, traditional or otherwise, it can really hurt. However, since unconventional relationships tend to be automatically devalued, people often don’t receive much support after these breakups.