Amy Gahran, “Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life”
Constant conversation
I now believe it’s crucial to periodically have a conversation just to take the pulse of how everybody in the relationship feels. How does it feel to be monogamous or polyamorous? How does it feel to be having sex, or not? How does it feel to live together or apart? How do we feel now about having children, or about how we are parenting? Do we want to be married or not? Do we want to be public or private about our relationship? This stuff does not stay static.
Having these conversations, practicing this skill, has helped me accept that it’s completely normal to feel different things at different times, or to want things that are unconventional.