Amy Gahran, “Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life”

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The assumption of post-intimacy division of social ties is why, when people hear that former partners are maintaining an active, genuine friendship, they often remark, “Oh, it’s so nice that you and your ex are still on good terms!” While well intended, this begs the question: why should not hating or ostracizing a former partner be at all remarkable?